Steven Dybvad – Personal Journal – June 5, 2014
I often hear about inmates hooking up with women that they’ve never even met before from inside prison. Many times it’s from other inmates that are writing a women or talking on the phone with, introducing their friends to more inmates, giving out their address or phone number, thus continuing the cycle of extremely strange relationships. On one hand I feel sorry for some of these women because they are only being used by these inmates, for money, food, clothing and getting other things accomplished that they normally wouldn’t be able to without these women on the outside. Often when the inmate gets released, they never contact these women again, never having any intention of nurturing these relationships after release. These women are obviously very needy and ill, with an unhealthy need for co-dependency. On the other hand I don’t feel sorry for them at all. First of all, they’re establishing a relationship with a convicted felon in prison of all places. In this day and age, with the internet and all of its dating sites, why would a person be attracted to a prisoner, a person that they can’t even have personal contact with, except on visits?… I was talking with someone in hear that’s always getting food boxes and clothing boxes and money on his books from this women that he’s never even met in person. He has a wife and children that he’s going to when he gets out, so I asked him what he’s going to do with his relationship with this other woman when he gets out and he told me he’s never going to have anything to do with her. Prison is a strange world that attracts strange people. I’m fascinated by such things and sickened by them at the same time. I never want to fully understand this temporary world I live in, I’m just passing through.